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I Smacked My Nose Round The Corner Of A Wall (9th September 2020)

  #ParentingIsDangerousOrAtLeastMyOwnStupidityIs #BHasNotBeenSleepingWellForAWeekOrSo #SheUsedToPutHerselfToSleepForSomeNaps #AndNowSheJustCriesWhenIPutHerInHerCot #SoYesterdayWeWatchedSomeVideosOnSleepTipsAndSheManagedToSleepFor5HoursForTheFirstTimeInAges #SheDidWakeUpButSheManagedToGoBackToSleep #ItWasSayingYouShouldTryToLetBabiesHaveANapInTheirCotAtLeastOnceADay #SoThisMorningTiagoPutHerDownForANap #SheWasTalkingToHerselfSoIWentInToCheckOnHerAfterAWhile #ThenIWentToLeaveButSawAMilkBottleLidOnMyBedsideTableSoILeantAroundTheCornerToPickItUpAsIDidNotWantToBeInHerFieldOfVision #ItHasBeenThereForAWeekButObviouslyTodayIHadToPickItUp #ThenWhenIStoodBackUpAndWentToMoveAwayAtTheSameTimeISmackedMyNoseRoundTheWallCorner #TiagoWasInTheNextRoomSoISaidDidYouHearThat #ThenIJustKneltDownAndPutMyHeadOnTheFloorHalfLaughingHalfCrying #TheNoiseWasSoLoud #TiagoSaidHeThoughtItWasTheSoundOfASwitchAndThatHeThoughtIHadBeenElectrocutedALittleOrSomething #IWasCryingInShockMoreThanAnythingButIWasWorriedThatIHadBrokenMyNoseAndIWasLaughingAtMyStupidity #TiagoSmashedUpSomeIceAndPutItInATowelForMe #ITookSomePicturesStraightAwayAsBWasStillTryingToSleepInHerCot #AtSomePointIHadTheIceTowelTiedToMyHeadToTryToWriteTheseHashtags #IShouldHaveJustLeftBTalkingToHerselfButAsIDisturbedHerSheStartedCryingSoNowSheIsInHerCarrierOnMe #IThinkSheGotToThePointOfBeingOverTiredWhichMakesItHarderForHerToFallToSleep #IAmStoodWithASmallTableOnTheTableJustBouncingHerUpAndDownMakingShushingSoundsSoICanTryToDoSomeWork #IHaveALittleCutOnMyNoseAndBHasOneTooFromScratchingHerNoseTheOtherNight #WeHadCutHerNailsButWeNeedToGetBetterAtFilingThem #IThinkMyNoseWillContinueToLookWorseAndItIsStartingToHurtABitMore #TheGoodThingIsWithThisEraOfTheFaceMasksIsThatICanJustPutOneOnWhenIGoForWalksAndNoOneWillSeeMyBigRedNose #SomeOfThePicturesFromTheShootLookLikeIHaveJustFashionedABigFaceMaskForMyselfOrLikeItIsBreathingApparatus #IMightStillGetSomeWeirdLooksAsSomePeopleDoNotLikeToWearThemButAtLeastPeopleUnderstandWhyOthersDoWearThem #INeedToReadMoreAboutThe3To4MonthSleepRegressionAsIThinkWeHaveHitThatPoint

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Motherhood Is So Glamorous (10th September 2020)

#HereIsAPictureOfMeWithMyBashedNoseABitOfAChocolateOatMilkMoustacheAndToastedSandwichCrumbsOnMyChestAndBra #OutOfShotIsBAsleepOnMeAndOverMyRightArm #ThisWasThisAtAroundTenThirtyThisMorningAndItIsNearlyTwoNow #IStillHaveNotShoweredAndIAmFindingCrumbsAllInMyBra #IWasGoingToPutBDownForANapAfterSheHadFinishedEating #ICanNotKeepBAwakeDuringFeeding #IAmGoingToHaveToDoAllTheTipsLikeKeepPuttingHerDown #IDoNotLikeThatALotOfTheBabySleepTerminologyIsTheSameAsSayingGoodbyeToAPet #INormallyBlowRaspberriesWhichUsuallyStartlesHerAwakeTheFirstTimeThenHerResponsesGetWeakerUntilSheStopsRespondingToTheSound #SoThisMorningSheFellAsleepOnMeAndIThoughtOkaySheCanJustNapOnMeThisTime #AfterAWhileITextedTForHelpAndHeBroughtMeAToastedSandwichAndAGlassOfChocolateMilk #ILikeToHaveMyChocolateMilkInbetweenBitesButTheGlassWouldHaveFallenOverOnTheBedSoIHadToDrinkItAllBeforeIStartedToEat #IHadToEatItWithMyLeftHandAndItWasQuiteMessyHenceAllTheCrumbs #IKnowItIsAHardLife #IAlwaysGetAMoustacheWheneverIDrinkSomethingSoBWillProbablyNotMakeMuchMoreOfAMessThanMe #IHaveACutOnMyNoseFromSmashingItRoundACornerOfTheBedroomWall #ItHurtsABitButItCouldHaveBeenALotWorse #WeTriedHerInASwaddleSleepingBagForTheFirstTimeYesterday #ForHerFirstNapInItSheFellAsleepStraightAway #LaterOnWePutHerToBedAndWeWentToBedAboutAnHourAfterwardsAndThenSheDidNotWakeUpForFiveHours #ITriedToDoAllTheTipsToElongateHerSleepButSheWasNotHavingIt #SometimesTheyWorkAndSometimesTheyDoNot #WeDecidedToSkipHerDreamFeedAsWeWereGoingToBedAnyways #TheNightBeforeWeDidThatButSheWokeUpWhenIWouldHaveUsuallyDoneTheDreamFeedAnyways #GoingToBedNotLongAfterHerIsDefinitelyAGoodWayForMeToNotFeelSoCrankyInTheNightThough #SheWouldNotGoBackToSleepForAnHourButIJustReadMyBookWhilstGentlyEncouragingHerHereAndThere #ItIsABetterApproachForMeThanJustTryingToGoBackToSleepAsWhenItTakesHerAgesIGetAnnoyedIfIAmActivelyTryingToSleep #SheStartedToFallAsleepDuringLunchTodaySoWePutHerInHerCot #SheFellAsleepQuickAndThenWokeUpAbout20MinutesAgoButTJustTouchedHerChestAndSheWentBackToSleep #SheIsApparentlyDueToHaveADevelopmentalLeapWhichMightExplainWhySheHasBeenABitDifferentLately

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Portrait Of A Mother Of A Three-Month-Old (15th September 2020)

 

#WhoIsWorriedThatSheWillNotHaveTimeToWriteTheHashtagsBeforeHerBabyWakesUp
#ThatWouldHaveBeenTooLongOfATitle
#ICanNotBelieveSheIsThreeMonthsOldAndIStillCanNotBelieveThatIHaveABaby
#LastNightSheWentFor8HoursBetweenTwoFeeds
#SheDidWakeUpACoupleOfTimesButSheWentBackToSleep
#ThoughNowIAmWorriedAsSheHasSeemedQuiteSleepyToday
#TypicallyWhenSheDoesNotSleepIAmWorriedAndWhenSheDoesIAm
#SheWasStartingToGetCrankyDuringHerBabyMassageClassThisMorningWhichWasARecordingFromLastWeekAsItExpiresTomorrow
#AndWeMissedHerBabyYogaClassSoWeWillHaveToDoThatBeforeWeDoTheNextBabyMassageOne
#SheIsMeantToBeGoingThroughADevelopmentalLeapThoughWhichMightExplainTheTiredness
#YesterdayOurRoutineGotMuckedUpByTravellingAboutSoIThoughtItMightBeALongNight
#WeHadToStopAtAServiceStationForTheFirstTimeWithHer
#WeActuallyHadToStopTwiceAsTheFirstTimeIFedHerAndTheSecondTimeWeChangedHerNappyAsSheWasStillCrying
#WhenSheIsOvertiredItCanGoEitherWay
#ButIThinkHerBeingOvertiredIsTheMainReasonWhySheCries
#SheWasFineWhenIWasHoldingHerButThenSheWouldCryWhenIPutHerDownInHerCot
#NowThatWeSwaddleHerSheHasABitMoreOfANaptimeSlashBedtimeRoutine
#IUsuallyPickHerUpOnceSheIsSwaddledAndSingToHerForABitWhileRockingHer
#OurNewSongIs
#HeyBabyAreYouSleepy
#LetsGoToBedASAP
#ButASAPAsAyEssAyPee
#ISangToHerForAWhileButSheWasStillFussy
#AsSheSleepsInATravelCotThoughIRecentlyRealisedThatICanRockTheBassinetBitToRockHerToSleep
#IPlannedToDoThisShootLaterButIThoughtIMightAsWellTryToDoItNow
#SoTonightICanJustFocusOnCodingOnceIGetMeTime
#IFeelQuiteStressedOutRightNow
#IGuessIJustStartedANewCourseAndIHadNotDoneAShootInAFewDays
#IAlsoHaveNotBeenOnAWalkInACoupleOfDaysSoINeedToMakeSureThatIGoOutToday
#ItIsNiceLookingAfterHerButEveryDayIsTheSameKindOfCycle
 

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I Was Feeling Overwhelmed, But I Felt Better After I Wrote About It (18th September 2020)

  #IHaveWantedToWriteAboutThisForAFewDaysButIHaveAlsoNotWantedToGiveMyselfExtraWorkToDo #IThinkTheWordOfTheWeekIsOverwhelmed #IHaveBeenWonderingWhyAndIGuessIHaveNeverHadAnAlmost24SevenJobBefore #AndIAmGettingFedUpWithMyMainContactWithOtherPeopleBesidesBAndTBeingThroughMyPhoneOrComputer #WeStillDoNotKnowManyPeopleInLiverpoolAndTheOnesWeDoKnowGenerallyLiveFarAway #AndIWasHopingThatIWouldMeetMoreLocalMumsThroughTheChildrensCentreAndStuff #ButTheyHaveBeenClosedAndNowANewLocalLockdownLooksImminent #WeAreTryingToWorkOnBsNaps #WithFeedingAndChangingHerYouKnowWhatYouAreGoingToGet #ButWithNapsYouDoNotKnowIfItWillBeTwentyMinutesOrTwoHoursSoYouHaveToMoveFast #TheFirstNapOfTheDayIsMeantToBeTheEasiestToSucceedWith #IRiskedShavingMyLegsAndIManagedToDoBothAndIAmWritingThisNow #IEvenManagedToDoSomeStretchingAndHaveBreakfast #IHaveFoundMyselfDoingMyStretchingAt4InTheMorningALotLatelyWhichIsNotGood #IFeelLikeIHaveMadeMyLifeOvercomplicated #HavingToWriteAnEssayWithEachPhotoThenABlogPost #ButThePicturesSeemRubbishAtTheMoment #IAmWritingThisBeforeIHaveEvenDoneAShootAsIFeelPutOffThatTheShootWillBeBad #IGuessItIsImportantToJustKeepMakingWorkAtTheMoment #ButItFeelsCrapHavingCrapPhotos #IGuessPeopleAreNotExpectingMuchFromMeRightNow #ButIAmExpectingALotFromMyself #OnceInAWhileIJustFeelDownAboutMyArtPracticeAndWonderWhyIDoItAll #SoIGuessThisIsOneOfThosePhasesCombinedWithALotOfOtherStuff #IJustNeedToMakeMyWorkForMyselfAndAsLongAsIGetSomethingFromItThenItIsAllGood #INeedToMoveFastWhenBIsAsleepToAchieveSomething #WeAreDueToHaveAFlatInspectionForTheFirstTimeSinceBeforeLockdown #ItSeemsSoHardToGetTheBedroomCleanAsBIsEitherAsleepInItOrSheIsAwakeAndINeedToLookAfterHer #TheClothesMountainJustNeverSeemsToGetAnySmaller #ButIAmGratefulToBeAMumAndILoveWhenBEspeciallyWhenSheSmilesAtMe

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Blowing Bubbles Like B (22nd September 2020)

  #IAmTryingToDoTwoShootsAWeekNowEvenIfIFeelLikeIDoNotHaveMuchToSayOrShow #IFeelLikeDuringTheDayLifeJustConsistsOfThreeHourCycles #SheWakesUpSheIsFedShePlaysSheIsChangedSheNaps #TheOrderChangesButItIsBasicallyThat #TwoNightsAgoSheSleptFor8HoursBetweenFeeds #SheWentToBedAround8SheHadADreamFeedAround10ThirtyWhichSheSleptThrough #SheWokeUpAt2ButWithGentleEncouragementSheWentBackToSleep #ThenSheWokeUpAt6ThirtySoIStartedOurDayThen #LastNightItStartedTheSameExceptSheWokeUpAtMidnight #ItWasTooEarlyToFeedHerButSheKeptCryingSoIFedHer #ThenSheWokeUpAt5AndITriedToEncourageHerBackToSleepButNope #ThenSheWokeUpAt7ButIWasTooTiredToFeedHerSoTiagoPlayedWithHer #ThenHeBroughtHerToMeAt8AndIFedHerAndThenItWasTimeForHerNap #SoIMessedTheDayUpReallyAsIShouldHaveJustFedHerAt7 #InTheEndSheSleptForAWhileSoIWokeHerUpWhenSheWasDueToFeedAgain #ExcitingStuff #YesterdaySheWasGrabbingAtTheSidesOfThePushchairForTheFirstTime #SheIsMoreGrabbyEveryDay #SheAlsoContinuesToBlowALotOfBubblesWhichIDecidedToFocusOnForThisShoot #IThinkSoonSheIsGoingToHaveToWearABibAllTheTime #IAmTryingToReadToHerMoreThoughWeNeedToGetSomePortugueseKidsBooksToo #IFeelLessOverwhelmedThanInTheLastPostButIStillFeelALittleOnEdge #IJustWantToSleepForAWeek #TodayANewLockdownBeginsInLiverpool #YesterdayWeGotAnEmailSayingThatWeShouldWearMasksGoingInAndOutOfOurBuilding #IDefinitelyWillButIFeelLikeALotOfPeopleWont #IAmReadyToBePleasantlySurprisedThough #IFeelLikePeopleAreGettingTooComplacent #OnMyDailyWalksPeopleGetTooCloseToMeWhichDoesFreakMeOut #IWonderHowOldBWillBeWhenThisIsAllOver

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Stir-Crazy, Sore Boob (24th September 2020)

  #IWasSoOverItThatINearlyDidNotBotherCarryingOnWithTheShoot #IWasSoFedUpThatIAlmostDidNotBotherToWriteTheseHashtags #ItIsOnlyThreeDaysIntoTheNewLocalLockdownAndIAmAlreadyGoingStirCrazy #ItIsNotLikeIWasDoingMuchAnyways #ButJustBeingAbleToSeeMyFamilyAndThingsMadeThingsABitBetter #INeedToFeelSomeSenseOfANormalLifeAgain #IJustFeelStuckAndFrustrated #IAmGratefulToBeAMotherWhichIFeelTheNeedToKeepSayingThisAsIKnowHowSomePeopleWantParenthoodSoMuch #IDoLikeBeingAMotherButIDidNotChooseToBecomeAMotherDuringAPandemic #WhenIGoToBedAtNightNowICanNotWaitToPlayWithBInTheMorning #AndIFeelLikeIMissHerThoughSheIsNotEvenHalfAMetreAwayFromMeInHerCot #TheProblemIsBeingAMotherInATimeWhenICanNotReallyHangOutWithAnyoneElseOrGoToBabyClasses #IBoughtSwimmingStuffForHerTheOtherDayAsTIsOffWorkNextWeek #ButAllTheFamilySwimmingSlotsAreFullAtTheMomentAsOnlyTwoOrThreeFamiliesCanBeInThePoolAtOneTime #ITotallyUnderstandWhyWeHaveLockdownAndIAgreeWithIt #ButIAmAlsoAllowedToBeAnnoyedByThisWholeSituation #OurOriginalPlanForNextWeekWasToGoAndSpendTimeWithMyFamily #NowItIsLookingLikeTheWeatherWillBeCrapAndWeWillProbablyBeStuckInTheFlatForMostOfTheWeek #TiagoSaysWeCanJustWatchFilmsAndEatNiceFood #ThatWouldBeGoodButIAlsoHopeThatWeCanGoOutForWalksAndThings #MyDailyHighlightAtTheMomentIsWatchingAFilmWhilstIFeedB #UsuallySplitAcrossThreeFeedsAroundTenOneAndFour #ButYeahOneBoobIsSoreAndIAmWorriedItIsMastitis #BeforeMyNipplesWereSoSoreThatItUpsetMeAndIDidNotLookForwardToFeedingHer #NowMyBoobFeelsBruisedAndHorribleSoINeedToKeepAnEyeOnIt #IWillCallTheDoctorsIfItDoesNotFeelBetterByTomorrow #TypicallyWhenBSleepsForLongerIPayForItWithMyBoobs #SheWokeUpAFewTimesInTheNightButIGotHerUpAtFiveThirtyWhenSheNeededToBeChanged #WeBothHadALongNapAfterwardsAndIDidNotFeelBadAboutIt #LaterInTheDayIRealisedThatMyBoobWasProbablyJustBruisedFromTurningUpThePumpSettingOnMyPumpTheDayBefore

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Tiago’s First Dad Injury (28th September 2020)

  #WellThisHappenedAt4ThisMorning #BWokeUpAt2ButIManagedToGetHerToSleepABitLonger #At4WhenSheWokeUpAgainIGotHerUpAsIThoughtWhenIWakeHerAt7ItIsAGoodGapBetweenFeeds #OfCourseWeSleptUntil8Thirty #Whoops #Anyways #TiagoChangedBsNappyBeforeIWasGoingToFeedHer #HeStoodUpAndScrapedHisBackUpASlightlyOpenDrawer #HeMadeSomeKindOfPainedSound #IMadeHimGetTheAntisepticCream #IWasThinkingAboutAskingIfCouldPhotographItButIDidNotThinkItWouldMakeMuchOfAnInterestingPicture #ButIFeelLikeALotOfTheseProjectPicturesAreNotThatInteresting #Around9ThirtyThisEveningHeAskedMeToTakeAPictureOfTheCutOnHisPhoneSoHeCouldSeeIt #ISaidICanTakeAQuoteProfessionalUnquotePictureOfItAndIWasSurprisedThatHeAgreedToIt #HeSatOnASmallTableWhilstIPhotographedHimAndHeWasOnHisPhone #InOtherClumsyNews #TodayWeWentToARestaurantForTheFirstTimeInIGuessAFewWeeks #WeEndedUpSittingOnHighStools #WeHadHadToMakeAReservationAndThanksToMyWakingUpLateWeArrivedDuringBsAwakeTime #SoWeTookItInTurnsToHoldHerAsWeAte #SheSeemedToLikeLookingAtEveryoneAndEverythingSoIFeltLessBadForHerMissingOutOnMoreFunPlayTime #IWasHoldingHerButIWantedToEatABitSoIDidAndIStartedToDaydreamTheWayIDoWhenIEat #NextThingIKnowISeeHerHandGoingForTheBowlButIWasSlowToReactAndShePouredMisoSoupOnMeAndHer #OfCourseMeAndTheFloorGotMostOfIt #SheJustHadABitOfAWetSleeve #ItWasColdAsICanNotHandleHotFoodSoIHadMovedItOutOfTheWayUntilItCooledDown #YesterdaySheWentToTheBeachForTheFirstTimeAndSheFeltSand #IDoNotKnowWhatSheThoughtOfItButItWasNiceToDoSomethingDifferentWhileTheWeatherWasGood #WeWalkedInSomeWoodsTooAndSheJustSpentALotOfTimeStaringUpAtTheTrees #IAmLookingForwardToGoingCampingWithHerOneDay

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Third Family Portrait (2nd October 2020)

  #WhoopsICanNotBelieveItHasBeenAMonthAndAHalfSinceTheLastFamilyPortrait #WeHadPlannedToDoItEarlierInTheDayButInTheEndItWasGettingLateAndBWasGettingRestless #TypicallyIHadToldSomeoneThatHerSleepingWasNotThatBadAndThenSheTookAgesToSettleAtBedtime #HerBedtimeIsUsuallyBetween7And8WithADreamFeedAround10 #AndTheLastFewNightsIHaveNotFedHerUntil7InTheMorning #ThoughSheNormallyWakesUpQuiteABit #LastNightSheWokeUpLessButIStillFeltLikeIHadOnlySleptFor5Minutes #IHaveBeenHavingANapEverydayLately #IAmNotSureIfItIsParentingTheWeatherLifeOrEverything #IThinkMyPeriodMayHaveStarted #IHaveNotHadOneSinceSeptember2019AndTypicallyWeAreGoingSwimmingTomorrow #IWasHopingToGoWithoutThemForABitLonger #YesterdayTiagoCommentedThatBWasLookingABitTooBigInHerBassinet #SoLastNightIAssembledTheChairElementOfHerPushchairAndSheWentInItForTheFirstTimeToday #NewRulesGotAnnouncedForLiverpool #NoMeetingUpWithOtherPeopleInsideForAnyReason #AndMeetingUpOutsideIsNotRecommended #TheNotRecommendedStuffIsABitAnnoying #EitherWeAreAllowedOrWeAreNot #AnywaysWeWentToTheCityCentreTodayToGetFalafelWraps #IFoundTheWholeExperienceSoStressfulThatIWillNotBeWalkingThereAgainAnytimeSoon #PeopleDoNotCareAboutSocialDistancingAndIJustFeltAnxiousTheWholeTime #ItWasTooColdToEatOutsideSoWeWalkedHomeWithThem #TiagoAteHisWhilstIFedBAndAfterAWhileIWasSoHungryThatIDecidedToEatItOverHer #YesterdayWeAlsoStartedToPutHerInHer3To6MonthsOnesies #SheHasALotOfTheSamePatternsAsHer0To3MonthsOnes #SheHadANiceNewOneOnTodayAndIGotFalafelWrapJuiceAllOverIt #CleverMe #IAskedTiagoIfHeHadAnythingToSayWithTheHashtagsButHeSaidNo #IAmNotLookingForwardToHimGoingBackToWorkNextWeek

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They Say That It Takes A Village To Raise A Child, But We’re Cut Off From The Village (7th October 2020)

  #TiagoSaysThatWeDoNotHaveAVillage #IPointedOutThatWeDoButItIsJustNotALocalVillageAsNoOneFromOurFamilyLivesCloseToUs #BsSleepHasGottenWorse #SheWasWakingUpAtNightBeforeButSheDidNotNeedToBeFedAndCouldBeSettled #NowSheWakesUpWithAHarshCryAndWillOnlySettleIfIFeedHer #IThinkSheFeedsMoreForComfortThanBecauseSheIsHungryThough #SheHadInjectionsAndThatNightSheSleptStraightThrough #WhichWasOddAsSheDoesUsuallyWakeUp #IHaveHadToFeedHerTwiceTheLastCoupleOfNights #WeWereGettingAnnoyedLastNight #IPutHerOnOurBedToGetReadyToFeedHer #ThenSheStartedToSmileAndBeAllCuteSoWeInstantlyFeltBad #IWasReadingThatYouShouldNotWatchTVAndBeOnYourPhoneWhilstYouFeed #IHaveBeenFeelingDownAgainSinceTiagoWentBackToWork #AndTheFilmsHaveBeenHighlightsDuringLongFeeds #AsIUsuallyFeedHerFor40Minutes #ThereIsOnlySoMuchThatICanTalkToHerWhilstSheHasHerMouthFull #YesIDoFeelGuilty #MyLifeIsPrettyMuchTheSameEveryday #IThinkThisPandemicIsMakingMoreSociallyAwkwardThanIAlreadyWas #TheIdeaOfGroupChatsJustMakesMeFeelAnxious #ICanNotImagineBeingInARoomFullOfPeopleAtAnEventAnymore #ItIsSoWeird #WeTookBSwimmingTheOtherDay #SheSeemedToLikeItThoughWeWereOnlyInTheWaterFor20Minutes #ItWasNiceToDoSomethingDifferentAsAFamily #TheWeatherHasTurnedAndTheOtherDayIDidNotGoOutForAWalkThenYesterdayIGotRainedOn #INeedToJustFocusOnTakingLifeOneDayAtATime #AndTryToFindMorePositivityInThisWeirdTimeAsOtherwiseItIsGoingToBeAVeryLongWinter #IReallyEnjoyedThisShootWithBSoMaybeINeedToCollaborateWithHerMore

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We’re Thinking About Leaving Liverpool And Moving To Birmingham (10th October 2020)

  #IFeelQuiteContentTodayThoughIDoTendToFeelBetterAtTheWeekendWhenTIsOffWork #TheOtherDayIWentForMyCervicalSmearAfterGettingALetterInThePostToBookOne #IManagedToGoWhilstBHadANapAtHomeAndTWasAroundToKeepAnEyeOnHer #ItWasTheFurthestAwayIHadEverBeenFromHer #ICouldHaveTakenHerWithMeButItSeemedUnnecessaryAndSheWokeUpJustBeforeIGotToTheFrontDoor #IWasABitAwkwardAboutGoingForTheSmearAsItHasBeenAFewMonthsSinceSoManyDifferentPeopleWereAtBsBirthAndThenCheckedMyStitchesOver #InTheEndIBarelyFeltIt #IMentionMySmearBecauseIKnowThatSomePeopleDoNotGetItDoneBecauseOfAwkwardnessAndOrWorryingAboutPain #AnywaysWhileIWasThereIThoughtIWouldMentionMyGeneralMoodAndHowItGoesUpAndDownALot #ISaidAboutHowIWasFrustratedByTheChildrensCentresBeingClosedAndNotBeingAbleToSeeMyFamily #SheSaidMyHealthVisitorIsTheOneToGoToForThingsLikeThatNow #ButSheAskedIfIWantedHerToCallHerForMeAndISaidYes #UsuallyWhenIThinkAboutReachingOutForHelpIFeelBetterButISoonFeelBadAgainSoItSeemedLikeAGoodIdeaForHerToJustCall #IAmYetToHearAnythingButWeWillSee #IDoNotFeelAshamedOfFeelingDownAtTimes #HavingABabyIsAMassiveLifeChange #AndThenExperiencingSuchALifeChangeDuringAPandemicIsDefinitelyARollercoaster #TypicallyWeEndedUpLivingSomewhereThatExperiencedASecondLockdownEarlierThanALotOfPlaces #ItIsHardSeeingPeopleLeadingFairlyNormalLivesWithTheirFamilyAndFriendsOnSocialMedia #IHaveFeltBetterTheLastFewDaysThoughAndIThinkItIsBecauseIHaveHadSomeGoodCallsWithPeople #ButAlsoBecauseWeAreThinkingAboutMovingCloserToMyFamily #SoJustThinkingAboutItAndTheLogisticsIsTakingUpALotOfMyBrainSpaceWhichIsGood #TSpokeToHisBossAndHeSaidToDoWhatIsBestForUs #AsHeMainlyWorksFromHomeItWouldNotBeTooBadHavingToCommuteHereAndThere #WeNeedToGiveAMonthsNoticeTheDayBeforeRentIsDueWhichIsNextWeekSoWeWillHaveAThink #OtherwiseWeCanJustSeeHowTheNextMonthGoesButWeFeelPrettySoldOnTheIdeaOfGoing #InOtherNewsIBookedASwimmingSlotForNextWeekend #ICalledExactly40TimesBeforeIManagedToGetThroughJustBefore8InTheMorning #ThePhotoShootIsQuiteDisconnectedToWhatIAmSaying #ButIDoFeelHappyToHaveMyLittleFamilyAndWeNeedToDoWhatWeThinkIsBestForUs

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32 (October 2020)

  #WellItIsMyFirstBirthdayAsAMother #ThoughIWasPregnantOnMyLastBirthdayButIDidNotKnowItForAnotherWeek #IGuessItDependsIfYouCountPregnancyAsMotherhoodOrNot #TheBigNewsIsThatWeHaveGivenNoticeOnOurFlatAndPlanToMoveToBirminghamASAP #WeWillMoveInWithMyNanSoWeCanCareForHerAndBWillGetSomeExtraAttention #TwoYearsAgoIHadABirthdaySlashLeavingLondonParty #ThisYearWouldBeABirthdaySlashLeavingLiverpoolParty #ButWeWillBeLuckyIfWeGetToSayGoodbyeToManyPeopleBeforeWeGo #TheLiverpoolRegionIsUnderTier3RestrictionsNowWhichIsTheOnlyAreaInTheUKToHaveSuchStrictRulesAtTheMoment #ThisMeansWeCanNoLongerGoSwimmingThisWeekend #IJustCancelledOurSlotAsTheCentreIsClosedNowAndWeGotCreditAddedToOurAccount #SoOneDayIfWeAreAbleToVisitLiverpoolItLooksLikeWeWillBeDoingASwimSession #MovingIsDefinitelyForTheBest #ItWillBeSuchALongWinterOtherwiseAndAtLeastWeCanSeeMyNanAndPossiblyOtherFamilyFromADistance #IWillMissOurDailyWalkHereButItIsStartingToGetVeryColdAndWindy #OurFlatIsColdWithWindBlowingThroughThePlugSockets #IDoNotGetHowSuchNewBuildingsCanBeSoBadlyDesigned #WeDecidedToLeaveLondonAndWereGoneWithin6Weeks #ThisTimeItWillBeWithin5WeeksThoughIThinkItWillBeALotQuicker #TheWeekendAfterNextIfWeCan #WeArePayingRentForAMonthButThereIsNoPointJustFeelingStuckHere #AndAtLeastItGivesUsSomeTimeToCleanUpAndThings #WeWillProbablyJustCelebrateMyBirthdayByOrderingALotOfIndianFood #ThoughNowIAmTryingToEatUpAllTheRandomFoodWeHaveSoWeHaveLessToMove #WithMyCodingCourseIAmWorkingOnMyProjectNow #IAmGoingToTreatMyselfByNotDoingAnyCodingTodayThough #IAmFeelingALotBetterMentallyThoughIThinkABigPartOfItIsBeingDistractedByTheMove #IHaveNotHeardFromAHealthVisitorYetThoughIThinkIMightHaveMissedACallFromThemTheOtherDay #IGuessAYearAgoIDidNotThinkIWouldBeSpendingMy32ndBirthdayLivingThroughAPandemicWithA4MonthOldWhilstDoingACodingCourseAndPlanningAMoveToBirmingham #ButIGuessIWasNotThinkingMuchBeyondWantingToBePregnantAndNotBeingSureIfIWasAbleToBeOrNot

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Trying To Pack Up A Flat With A 4 Month Old Is Stressful (20th October 2020)

  #TheNewNestingSideOfMeIsSoFreakedOutByTheAbsoluteMessOfOurFlat #JustBoxesAndStuffEverywhereAndWeStillNeedToPackALotMore #TiagoHasHiredAVanForAFewDaysTimeAndIAmAlsoStressedOutAboutThat #HavingToGetEverythingInItAndWorryingAboutGettingToldOffForParking #DueToThePandemicWeCanNotHaveAnyHelp #IDoFeelABitOverwhelmedByEverything #IWantADayOffButICanNot #IThinkBIsTeethingNow #WellWeThoughtSheWasBeforeButNowIThinkSheIsEvenMoreSo #YesterdayIReallyStruggledToGetHerToTakeHerSecondNapWhichWeUsuallyHaveFewProblemsWith #InTheEndIJustLetHerSleepOnMe #ThenSheDidNotTakeHerFourthNapSoWePutHerToBedEarly #ButSheJustWouldNotSettleForSoLong #TheLastTwoDaysIHaveNotNappedDuringHerFirstNapAsIRealiseItIsTheBestTimeToGetThingsDone #ItIsReallyHardToKnowWhatIsNormalForABabyHerAgeWhenICanNotInteractWithManyMums #IGuessWithGoingToBabyClassesAndChildrensCentresYouWouldHaveALotOfConversationsAndCanCompareThings #ItIsVeryDifferentToJustTalkingToPeopleViaTechnology #MyHairIsSoGreasyInThisShoot #IAmTryingToWriteTheseHashtagsQuicklySoICanGoWashMyHairAsItJustFeelsSoGross #IOnlyDidOneShootLastWeekAsIFeltLikeThereWasNotMuchToSay #IHaveJustBeenMotheringPackingCodingAndGoingForADailyWalk #ThoughIDoNotAlwaysManageToGetOutForAWalk #IHaveAlsoBeenSellingSomeBitsOfFurnitureWhichAlwaysTurnsInToAMassiveJob #YesterdayTheMentalHealthServiceCalledMe #ItWasADelayedRoutineCheckupAsIDidAnOnlineCBTCourseForAnxietyAYearAgo #TheySaidTheyUsuallyCallAfter6MonthsButTheyAreLateDueToThePandemic #ISaidIHaveBeenFeelingBetterWhichIsProbablyDueToTheDistractionsOfMoving #IStillHaveNotHeardBackFromTheDoctorsOrHealthVisitorThoughAfterMyAppointmentWhereIMentionedMyMentalHealth #IHadALongShowerForTheFirstTimeInAgesAndFeltSoMuchBetterAfter #INeedToStartDoingAnotherSetOfHashtagsForAfterIHaveRantedAboutStuffInTheFirstLotAndThenFeelLoadsBetter

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I Feel Like This Somehow Sums Up Today (23rd October 2020)

  #ThisPhotoShowsLeakedMilkOnMyNewTrousersThatMyMumGotMeForMyBirthday #WhatADay #TiagoIsOnTheWayBackFromDrivingAVanLoadOfStuffToBirmingham #InTheEndAFriendHelpedUsEmptyTheFlatWhichAbsolutelySavedUs #AsOfYesterdayBHasDecidedThatSheDoesNotLikeBeingBreastfed #SoTodayWhileTheyWereLoadingTheVanBWasJustScreamingALot #SheEitherDoesNotLikeBeingBreastfedOrIJustDoNotSeemToBeProducingEnoughAtTheMoment #ProbablyBecauseIAmStressedWhichSheMightBeSensingTooWhichIsUpsettingHer #LuckilyIHaveSomeMilkInTheFreezerWhichIHaveBeenDefrostingForEachFeed #ThenTryingToPumpBeforeSheWakesUpAndGivingOneBottleOfThatAndOneOfFreezerMilk #WithTheFeedsSheJustGetsVeryAgitatedQuiteQuicklyAndTheFeedsAreALotShorter #ButThenSheDrinksAllTheDefrostedMilkViaABottle #ThePictureIsFromWhenIWasPumpingAndDidNotRealiseThatTheTopOfThePumpWasNotOnProperly #SoItJustLeakedOnMeAndTheFloor #WhichIsNotGreatWhenYouAreTryingToGetAsMuchMilkTogetherAsPossible #AfterTiagoLeftWithTheVanOurFriendWentOutToBuyLunchAndSomeBottlesOfFormula #IWillTryThemIfTheMilkSituationDoesNotImproveAndICanNotProduceEnoughMilk #IThinkBIsDefinitelyHavingASleepRegressionAsSheSuddenlySeemsToHaveNewSkills #RollingOverToOneSideAndRollingOverFromBackToFrontOccasionally #AndStickingOutHerBottomLipAndUsingHerTongueMore #AndThisWeekSheHasBeenWorkingHerWayUpHerLegsAndIsNowGrabbingHerFeet #IFeelBadAsHerPlaytimesHaveBeenABitRubbishTheLastFewDaysWithPackingAndMoving #HopefullyThisWillBeFixedInACoupleOfDays #IDoNotWantToThinkAboutUnpackingRightNow #HerNapsHaveImprovedALittleBit #INowSpendMoreTimeSettlingHerBeforeLeavingHerToNapLikeRubbingHerForeheadAndChest #ThoughMyFingersAndThumbsAreSoDryFromPackingNowWhichIsNotGreat #IThoughtIWouldGetSoMuchDoneTodayAndWeWouldHaveANiceLastWalkAroundLiverpool #ButPackingUpTheVanTookALotLongerThanPlannedAndIOnlyManagedToMake4DanceVideosAndNowItIsGettingDarkSoNoWalkForUs #ItIsWeirdThatTonightIsOurLastNightInLiverpoolButWeWillAlwaysHaveOurScouseBabyAndWeWillBeBackForAVisitOneDay

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Working On The Stairs, Listening Out For B (27th October 2020)

  #HereIsATerriblePhonePictureOfMeWorkingOnTheBottomOfTheStairs #BHadGoneToBedButSheKeptWakingUpAndCryingSoItWasEasierToJustSitThereAndWork #SheIsDefinitelyTeethingNow #IFeelSoSorryForHerAsItMustBeHorrible #IKnewWithHavingABabyThatIWouldDreadTheTeethingStages #TodaySheHadFormulaForTheSecondTime #SheHadHerFirstBottleTwoDaysAgoAsIWasWorriedThatSheWasNotGettingEnough #IGaveHerSomeTodayWhenSheWouldBarelyBreastfeedDuringOneFeed #IPumpedAfterwardsAndBarelyAnythingCameOut #MaybeItIsDueToStressOrMaybeItIsPermanentlyDryingUp #IDoFeelBummedOutByItButINeedToMakeSureSheIsGettingFed #ThereIsNoPointTorturingMyself #TiagoWentFoodShoppingTonightSoHeBoughtABoxOfFormula #IWouldStartWeaningHerButItSeemsThat6MonthsIsTheRecommendationNow #SheIs4AndAHalfMonthsSoItIsNotMuchLongerToGo #IGuessIWillTryToBreastfeedHerStillAsMuchAsICanThough #InOtherNewsIHaveNotUnpackedMuchAtAll #IAmTiredFromHavingToQuicklyPackEverythingUp #TiagoNeedsToGoBackToCleanUpTheFlatAndPackTheLastFewThings #ItWasANightmareGettingTheThingsWeNeededAndOurselvesInTheCar #InTheEndWeJustBottleFedBSomeExpressedMilkInTheCarInTheCarparkJustSoWeCouldGetOutOfTheFlat #WeStartedTheDayOptimisticAndThoughtWeWouldStartWithTheCleaning #WeEvenWentForAWalkToGetLunchFromOurFavouriteFalafelPlace #AGuyWalkedPastUsInTheStreetAndWasImpressedByTiagoCarryingB #HeSaidHeWantedOneButIDoNotKnowIfHeWentTheCarrierOrBabyOrBoth #BsScheduleGotSuperMessedUpButSheDidSleepForTheWholeCarJourneyAtLeast #TodayIDecidedToExploreMoreOfTheAreaAsEvenThoughIHaveSpentSoMuchTimeHereIStillDoNotKnowWhatIsInCertainDirections #ILikeToDrinkALotOfWaterWhenIWalkToTryToHelpWithMilkProduction #AGuyRanPastSayingHeHopedItWasVodka #PeopleSeemFriendlyAroundHereButIAmStressedOutByTheNarrowPaths

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Twinning With My Child In My Nan’s (And Now Our) Home (31st October 2020)

  #WellIAmWritingTheseHashtagsInHopeThatIGetToTakeThisPhotoToday #TheMorningDidNotStartWell #TiagoHasGoneToLiverpoolToCleanTheFlatAndHandInTheKeys #BHasAHoarseVoiceAndSeemsABitUnderTheWeather #UsuallyHerFirstNapOfTheDayIsTheEasiestButSheWouldNotGoToSleep #IFedHerAndGaveHerSomeParacetamolAsSheSeemsToStillBeTeething #YouAreSupposedToGiveItABitAtATimeButIAccidentallyPushedTheSyringeAllTheWayIn #ICriedABitAsIFeltSoOverwhelmed #ThankfullyMyFirstInstinctIsNoLongerToTakeAPhotoOfMyselfCrying #EventuallySheSleptAndIPlannedToGetThingsDone #ButIGotNothingDone #WeAreGivingHerMoreFormulaFeedsNow #ItIsSuchAFaffButAtLeastIKnowSheIsGettingEnoughToEat #IHaveSignedUpForAWeaningClassButIHopeICanChangeItToNextWeekInstead #AsMaybeIShouldStartSoonerRatherThanLater #SheDefinitelySeemsInterestedInFood #IHaveSetUpMyCameraToTakeAPhotoOfBAndIOnMyNansRug #ITookASimilarPhotoOnMyParentsCarpetAsItCarpetRemindsMeSoMuchOfTheirHouse #WhereasThisRugIsVeryMuchMyNansHouseToMe #IWasWaitingForBsStomachToSettleAfterHerFeedToTakeThePhoto #IThoughtIShouldRestartMyComputerButThereWasAnUpdate #ObviouslyItTookOverAnHourToComeBackOnSoIMissedThatWindowForPhotos #TheHealthVisitorCalledMeTheOtherDayAndSaidMyDoctorNeverSaidIWasFeelingLow #ObviouslyNowWeHaveMovedSoIHaveToBeTransferredToANewHealthVisitor #SheSaidToCallOurNewDoctorIfIWasWorriedAboutBsFeeding #IDidTryToRingThemButIThinkICalledTheOneAfternoonThatTheyAreClosed #IThoughtAboutItAndIKnowSheDrinksEnoughFromABottle #ItIsJustWithBreastfeedingINeverKnowHowMuchSheIsGetting #IAmSadThatItSeemsLikeOurBreastfeedingJourneyIsComingToAPrematureEnd #WellInTheEndIDidTheShootAfterHerNextFeedAndItWasQuiteRelaxing

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Squeezing Through Doors And Hoping They Don’t Squeak (4th November 2020)

  #WellMyPeriodHasFinallyRememberedHowToWorkProperlyWhichIsABitAnnoying #IWasHopingThatIWouldGetAwayWithItForABitLongerButAtLeastTheyDoNotSeemAsPainfulAsTheyUsedToBe #PerhapsMyBodyKnowsThatIAmNotBreastfeedingSoMuch #BIsHavingUpTo3FormulaFeedsADayNowAndTheRestOfTheTimeIBreastfeedHerOrGiveHerExpressedMilk #IAmWorriedThatMaybeIAmOverfeedingHerButBeforeIWasWorriedThatSheWasNotGettingEnough #SheIsRarelySickThoughAndTodayIWillDoAWeaningClassSoWeWillStartThatSoon #TheLastCoupleOfNightsIHaveHadToSqueezeThroughASqueakyBathroomDoorToGetToMyPads #IHaveToBeCarefulThatItDoesNotWakeBUpAsIEdgeItOpenLittleByLittle #LastNightSheSleptThroughTheNightForWhatFeltLikeTheFirstTimeInAges #WeHadNotGivenHerParacetamolInAFewDaysButSheWasDribblingSoMuchYesterday #AndSheWasQuiteHappyToChompDownOnMyFingerForALongTime #ThoughSheSleptIStillWokeUpQuiteRegularlyButLuckilyISeemAbleToGoBackToSleepPrettyQuick #SheIsAsleepNowButIKeepThinkingThatICanHearHer #IThinkMyBrainSometimesImaginesBabyCries #ICalledTheDoctorsTheOtherDayAboutHerHoarseVoice #TheyCalledBackAtTheEndOfTheDayAndHeSaidJustToKeepMonitoringHerForAWeek #ISaidItIsDifficultToDoTheAppointmentOverThePhoneAsSheDoesNotMakeSoundsOnCue #IPreferThePhoneAppointmentsButSometimesInPersonSeemsBetter #SheSeemsQuiteHappyThoughReallyConsideringThatSheIsUnderTheWeatherAndIsTeethingAndIsHavingADevelopmentalLeap #TiagoTookTheDayOffWorkTodayToGoBackAndDoOneLastCleanOfOurFlatInLiverpool #LastTimeHeLeftHomeBefore8amAndGotBackAt10pmAndHeStillHadNotFinished #IWillBeGladWhenTodayIsOverSoThatWeCanFocusOnUnpackingThisWeekend #WithEnglandGoingIntoASecondLockdownTomorrowIAmGladWeMovedWhenWeDid #ThoughMovingIntoSomeoneElsesHomePresentsNewChallenges #IFeelLikeThisProjectWillGetLessHonestAsIFeelUnableToTalkAboutEverythingAsIDoNotWantToAppearUngrateful #IThinkSoonIWillDropThisProjectDownToOneShootAWeekUnlessAnythingMajorHappens #OurDaysArePrettyMuchTheSame #IAmJustObsessivelyTryingToFollowAScheduleForHerAndWorkingIfICanWhenSheSleeps #ThoughDuringOneOfHerNapsITakeHerForAWalkWhichICurrentlyJustDaydreamThroughAsICanNotFindMyEarphones #IWouldLikeToMakeSomeWorkWhereICanEscapeFromTheMonotomyOfOurLives

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